Do The Benefits Override The Costs?

The dream ideal of a family in this society is having the dad solely provide for the family, while the mom stays at home nurturing the children and taking care of the domestic needs of the family. Well the majority of families are not like that, most households in America are dual-income families. I support both of these families because every family is different and have different needs that have to be met. However, there comes a point when you have to ask yourself do the benefits of two incomes more than the cost of both parents working outside of the home? Also, if your household has both parents working outside of the home, it does not always effect the children in a negative way. Children sort of bond together and rely on each other and they do not just rely on their parents to help and support them. Children also have the ability to become more indepent because they are left to figure things out on their own and not always go to their parents to fix their problems. Family unity is all that really matters and unity can happen in different ways, not just spending time together,

Communication: A Key Part Of A Family

On of the biggest problems in a marriage and the family is the lack of communication. Miscommunication can be deconstructive to a family because it can either fracture the family or super glue it together. In my interpersonal communication class we learned that 93% of a message is nonverbal and only 7% of the message is the actual words in the message. Nonverbal communication can be misinterpreted because no one encodes and decodes messages differently. That is why counseling is needed a lot of the time because they can help unscramble the messages trying to be sent.

Rising From A Crisis

Every family reach and have to go through crisis points during their lifetime. Families also have different stressors that occur within the family unit. The stressor may effect the family as a whole, it also effects the individual members differently. No two people react to the same crisis or stressor the same. We also have different coping mechanisms we use to deal and help us to overcome the stressor that is happening. If it is a serious stressor that is breaking the family unit in individual pieces helping only the individuals members will not help repair the fractures in the family. You have to work with the breaking family as a whole in order to seal and repair the different fault lines that is running through the family. Together, not apart, will rise a family and a person from a crisis.

A Different Way of Viewing Things

Today's view on the concept of marriage as has a significant decrease in the last decade or so. Marriage is a matter that should be approached in a serious matter because it is supposed to be the most important decision in your life. You are choosing who you want to be with for the rest of eternity. However, the media today has begun to disregard the entire purpose of marriage with all the messages about having sexual relations outside of the bonds of matrimony. When sexual relations are scared matter and should only be with the person you are married to. My generation has left that idea behind and is now shaping a different image to the generations that follow. An image were marriage and relations inside of that bond are no longer valued and life should be approached with the mentality that I only have one life to live so I am going to do anything and everything.

Life Changes

When two people get married, things change between them because they are no longer living two completely separate lives on different paths; but, two lives on the on the same path towards a common goal. They have to learn to make mutual decisions together, learn to live together in harmony, and learn to communicate even better than they did before. You have to merge two lives together to have a strong marriage. The first year of marriage is the hardest because you have to learn to live together and you discover a lot of things about the person you didn't know before. There is also a big change after children enter into the family. Things become refocused and priorities are changed and you have to change and adapt to having a child and keep the marriage strong. Life with a family is constantly changing and you have to change with it or create fractures in the family.