Opposites Attack...Not Attract

There are so many myths about family that are destroying families before they are even being created. One of my favorite myths about marriage is that Opposites Attract. First of all no one wants to marry someone exactly like them and second no one wants to marry someone who is completely different from them. There needs to be common ground between two people for them to have a happy, strong, and even functional relationship, common ground like the same religion, values, beliefs, culture, social status, and even background. No, two people do not need to have all of these things for two people to be compatible. People do not only need all of these things to have a successful marriage. Both people in the relationship can learn to like things they don't like but the other loves. It is those differences that strengthen a relationship because it brings the couple together. Think about it do you even approach people who are the complete opposite of you? No, you avoid them like a plague. Plus those opposite characteristics that drew you to your opposite in the beginning of your relationship can be those things that drive you insane down the road. Another thing to think about is, will you be okay with your counterpart if they try to pass down those negative traits you can't stand or don’t agree with to your children? There needs to be a balance of similarities and differences in a relationship in order for a marriage to last.

What are some of your favorite myths about marriages and families?

04/19/2012

A family is like a puzzle; all the pieces are different but they fit together perfectly.